Someone on farcebook just told me I had an axe to grind because I defy the typical fucked up way we’re told to interact with an Aspie. I am aware of no other counseling module that routinely shames women into codependency the way ASD/NT coaches do. We’re taught to manipulate our partners and attempt to […]
I favor it, but not this one, ok? This wrangle about masking and unmasking has given me the yips to try my hand at untangling the spaghetti. Let’s begin by defining our terms. We need tight, narrow definitions — especially when the same word doesn’t mean the same thing in all situations. I boiled it […]
Few people walk us through these love affairs as they are going horribly wrong. Therein lies the reason. They go wrong. Horribly. This is an evaluation. To assess your life then compare it to an ideal you fall short of is a good way to shame yourself into silence. We almost broke up this week. […]
I don’t want to brag, but any relationship can become abusive. When that happens in neurodivergent households it’s kept hidden, maybe even from each other, maybe even from yourself. Interpersonal abuse is horrible but fixable. It’s the insidious secrecy guarding abusive patterns that spring up in NT/ASD pairings — that’s the real oppression. Secrecy creates […]
If I seem a unclear on the concept of Blackout Tuesday, running a video short by the rich, white, male Sultan of Scruples three days later you might be right. I get lost trying to follow and end up doing it my own way. I’m just looking for an audience. They say we neurodivergent couples […]
The big furry error-corrector treated me to apple and goat cheese flatbread with candied walnuts that we polished off in our petty bourgeois adjustable Serta, a privilege of advancing age and pale skin. It was he who tossed off the idea that we watch a Scorsese classic he’s never ever seen that lives in my […]
Error-correcting: To reflexively derail a conversational partner’s train of thought to point out minor glitches of grammatical structure as if it were a virtue and not sheer, unchecked ill manners. A most unacceptable trait of ASD sure to engender tension in the home, which the generator is oblivious to causing. Look no further when seeking […]
Living with an Aspie can put you into the position of defending basic social conventions that are so second nature you start by sifting through all your human rights and personal values, face askance before you find the words to build your case. Once you get over the whole I don’t believe I’m having this […]
Did you wait for it? Aspie wives canonized by Simon Baron-Cohen, no less — Director of Cambridge University Autism Research Center? Saints, they calls us, the giving she, compensation for being good & powerless, as it was ever thus. We get to cloak ourselves in serenity, basking in the unperturbed divine feminine. Relics is what […]
One odd thing about Aspies and love is that Aspies appear to function quite normally when they are “in love”. This period typically lasts about two years. After that the real work of “loving” as opposed to “being in love” starts. The Aspie does not know what “love”, outside the obsessional interest of being in […]
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